Designing for Couples: When Two Styles Collide
So, how do you decorate a home with someone else… and still feel like you in the space? That’s a question I hear all the time from couples.
Ester White Gherea
By Ester White Gherea | WBN News | June 16, 2025
So, how do you decorate a home with someone else… and still feel like you in the space?
That’s a question I hear all the time from couples. One person dreams of crisp white walls and clean lines. The other wants floral wallpaper and vintage charm. They look at each other, then look at me, and ask: “Can we actually create a home we both love?”
The answer is: Yes, absolutely.
But it takes more than picking a couch you both kind of like. It’s about creating a space that reflects both of you—your stories, your comfort zones, your sense of style—without either person feeling lost in the process.
Step One: Remember, You’re Not Merging into One Person
When two people move in together—or decide to redesign their space—it’s easy to think you have to “match.” But the truth is, a home doesn’t have to be all one style. You don’t need to erase yourself to make room for someone else.
What you need is balance. If you love earthy, natural elements and your partner leans modern and sleek, let both of those voices live in the space. Pair a clean-lined sofa with a handwoven rug. Add greenery in geometric planters. Mix soft textures with bold shapes. Let the contrast create the magic.
The Minimalist vs. the Cottagecore Dreamer
One couple I worked with had totally opposite styles. She adored warm, cozy spaces full of character—think books, candles, and vintage finds. He wanted clear surfaces, simple layouts, and no clutter.
Instead of picking one side, we chose a shared goal: comfort with clarity.
We designed a space with clean furniture but layered it with personal, meaningful accessories. She got her reading nook with plush pillows and bookshelves. He got open space and calming colors. Both felt seen, and the result was more personal and inviting than either style alone.
Stay True to Yourself (And Let Your Partner Do the Same)
Your home is a mirror of who you are—and it should feel like you. That doesn’t go away just because you share the space.
I encourage couples to each claim one or two “signature” pieces. Maybe it’s an heirloom, a favorite chair, or a photo wall. Make space for the things that make you feel connected to yourself. It’s not selfish—it’s healthy. And when both people do it, the home becomes a celebration of your life together, not a compromise that waters you down.
The Magic Happens in the Middle
Designing together isn’t about winning. It’s about finding that space in between where both people feel comfortable, inspired, and at home. It might surprise you—but often, that middle ground becomes something totally new… and even better than either person imagined.
So if you're decorating with your partner and feeling overwhelmed, remember this:
You don’t have to give up your style. You just have to open it up.
There’s room for both of you.
Let’s Talk!
Have you tried designing a space with your partner? Did it go smoothly, or did you find yourselves disagreeing on everything from throw pillows to paint colors?
I’d love to hear how it went.
Message me your story, or reach out if you're in the middle of the process and need a little design peacekeeping. I’ve helped plenty of couples find their harmony—and I'd love to help you find yours.
Ester White Gherea is an Interior Designer and the founder of Gherea Studios.
She can be reached at 236-339-6644 or estergherea@gmail.com. Connect with Ester on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/ester-white-gherea-6b339a2b5/. Connect with Ester at https://www.ghereastudio.com/.
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